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That's not fair

 When I was growing up I didn’t really understand the relevance of International Women’s Day. In my family, my brothers and I were encouraged to believe we could be anything we wanted to be. I didn’t see the structural inequities until later. Not so for my children, in the run up to IWD I was talking to my 9-year-old about the patriarchy, as you do. I told him the world was made for men, and he said “No it’s not”. I said “The Prime Minister is a man, the Premier is a man, most of the Premiers are men. We’ve had one woman PM – one. Most big bosses are men. Cars have been designed for me, air-conditioning has been designed for men. The world has been designed for men, and it is invisible – it’s called the patriarchy.” He said “That’s not fair.” And it isn’t – it isn’t fair.

This year’s theme for International Women’s Day was Embracing Equity – equity meaning fairness and justice. We are still so far from equity, and the invisible cultural norms and societal structures still hold and reinforce gender stereotypes, impacting every area of our lives. We were so fortunate at Knox to have Jane Gilmore, the incredible author, journalist and activist speak at our event. I’m such a massive fan of Jane – her work highlighting victim blaming and sexism in mainstream media has made plain the dehumanizing stories of women as culpable and invisible. Getting to ask Jane questions was a career highlight! A main focus was how gender inequity impacts financial security, and importance of developing financial literacy. We have had fantastic feedback that the women in the audience felt “seen” and more confident to talk about gender equity and financial inequities.

It’s important to stop and celebrate the achievements and successes towards gender equity, and it is important to recognise the work still ahead of us; part of that is making the invisible visible, however uncomfortable that may be.

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